Questions I need to answer for myself deeply from inside:

The Vision

• What is the dull and persistent dissatisfaction you’ve learned to live with? Not the deep suffering but what you’ve learned to tolerate. (If you don’t hate it, you will tolerate it)

• What do you complain about repeatedly but never actually change? Write down the three complaints you’ve voiced most often in the past year.

• For each complaint: What would someone who watched your behavior (not your words) conclude that you actually want?

• What truth about your current life would be unbearable to admit to someone you deeply respect?
  The Anti-Vision

• If absolutely nothing changes for the next five years, describe an average Tuesday. Where do you wake up? What does your body feel like? What’s the first thing you think about? Who’s around you? What do you do between 9am and 6pm? How do you feel at 10pm?

• Now do it but for ten years. What have you missed? What opportunities closed? Who gave up on you? What do people say about you when you’re not in the room?

• You’re at the end of your life. You lived the safe version. You never broke the pattern. What was the cost? What did you never let yourself feel, try, or become?

• Who in your life is already living the future you just described? Someone five, ten, twenty years ahead on the same trajectory? What do you feel when you think about becoming them?

• What identity would you have to give up to actually change? (”I am the type of person who...”) What would it cost you socially to no longer be that person?

• What is the most embarrassing reason you haven’t changed? The one that makes you sound weak, scared, or lazy rather than reasonable?

• If your current behavior is a form of self-protection, what exactly are you protecting? And what is that protection costing you?
  The Minimal Viable Vision

• Forget practicality for a minute. If you could snap your fingers and be living a different life in three years, not what’s realistic, what you actually want? What does an average Tuesday look like? Same level of detail as question 5.

• What would you have to believe about yourself for that life to feel natural rather than forced? Write the identity statement: “I am the type of person who...”

• What is one thing you would do this week if you were already that person?

Now I should be contemplating for most of the day before the evening.

• After today, what feels most true about why you’ve been stuck?

• What is the actual enemy? Name it clearly. Not circumstances. Not other people. The internal pattern or belief that has been running the show.

• Write a single sentence that captures what you refuse to let your life become. This is your anti-vision compressed. It should make you feel something when you read it.

• Write a single sentence that captures what you’re building toward, knowing it will evolve. This is your vision MVP.

• One-year lens: What would have to be true in one year for you to know you’ve broken the old pattern? One concrete thing.

• One-month lens: What would have to be true in one month for the one-year lens to remain possible?

• Daily lens: What are 2-3 actions you can timeblock tomorrow that the person you’re becoming would simply do?

  The Game of Life

• Anti-vision – What is the bane of my existence, or the life I never want to experience again?

• Vision – What is the ideal life that I think I want and can improve as I work toward it?

• 1 year goal – What will my life look like in 1 year time, and is that closer to the life I want?

• 1 month project – What do I need to learn? What skills do I need to acquire? What can I build that will move me closer to the one year goal?

• Daily levers – What are the priority, needle-moving tasks that bring my project closer to completion?

• Constraints – What am I not willing to sacrifice to achieve my vision from the ground up?

Your vision is how you win. At least until the game evolves.

Your anti-vision is what’s at stake. What happens if you lose or give up.

Your 1 year goal is the mission. This is your sole priority in life.

Your 1 month project is the boss fight. How you gain XP and acquire loot.

Your daily levers are the quests. The daily process that unlocks new opportunities.

Your constraints are the rules. The limitations that encourage creativity.